I’ve met a lot of guys since I made my profile on POF. Some were great, some not so much, but I am so happy to say that I have made 2 amazing friends from it! They have been there for me through so much already. I never thought that I would make such great friends from a dating site, but I’m so glad that I did. And before you say it, they don’t bitch about being in the “Friend Zone.” They know that a friend is more dear to me than any boyfriend could ever be. My friends are my life, and they will always come before the guy I’m dating simply because they were there before him, and they’ll be there after him too. Unless a guy is trying to put a ring on it, my friends will always be more important to me.
So without any further a due, please meet my 2 best guy friends:
(Yes, I know that was corny. Don’t judge me. I’m excited, damn it.)
I met Spencer within the first week of making my profile. Spencer is actually his last name, but he introduced himself to me as Spencer, so I’ve called him that ever since. I knew he was different from the first 5 minutes of talking to him because he said:
“You’re not gonna stop talking to me, are you?”
He called me out on something I have done to one too many guys. I talk to them, and then I “disappear” for one reason or another. He made me promise that if I planned on stopping to talk to him, that I would tell him. I have talked to him every day ever since, and I don’t plan on stopping. He has been there for me every time I’ve needed someone to talk to, someone to listen, and someone to care. We can talk on the phone for HOURS, and he makes me laugh my ass off the entire time. We make fun of each other, we act retarded, and it’s simply amazing. Things that normally bother me, like when people listen to music,watch TV, or play video games while on the phone with me, don’t bother me with him. I’m peaceful when I talk to him. He never wanted sex from me. He was just there. It’s incredibly hard for me to trust people, but he gained my trust. I trust him. I have opened up to him and told him things that I’ve only shared with people I can count on one hand. I am comfortable with him, and I can be completely myself around him. He is the kind of friend I’ve always wanted. The kind that will call me out on my bullshit when I’m wrong, and be completely honest and open with me about his thoughts and feelings. No sugar coating. No beating around the bush. Just the plain, honest truth. I believe that everyone needs somebody that will stand up and tell them when they’re wrong, call them out on their bullshit, and give them their honest thoughts and opinions on even the most delicate of subjects. He’s that guy for me, and I hope he sticks around.
I met Tron on December the 14th, and his first message to me was:
“Haha, “burst out laughing about something that happened forever ago.” That made me laugh lol because I’ve done that before too ha anyways just thought I’d tell you that”.
He was referring to my About Me section because I said that “I burst out laughing over something that happened forever ago more often than I probably should lol.” I was happy that I made somebody laugh, so I messaged him back. From there, we started having a great conversation, and I quickly realized that he is the sweetest guy I have ever met!! Seriously guys….he is SO sweet. I honestly don’t even know how he’s still single. He makes me so happy, and he really makes my day every time I talk to him. No matter how I’m feeling at the moment or the type of day I’ve had, he always finds a way to make me smile. Everything he says comes from his heart, and that kind of pure emotion is hard to find. I also think he might possibly be falling in love with me…but shhhhh! 😉 I honestly hope that we remain best friends forever, because he really is the sweetest and nicest guy I have ever met. He listens to me, he gives me advice, he makes me laugh, and I can’t help but smile every time I get a new message from him. I feel like I can tell him anything, and I trust him as well. I can even talk to him about other guys, which isn’t something most guys are willing to listen to. He deserves the most amazing girl in the world. He deserves to be happy, and I’m sure that his Mrs. Right is out there somewhere just waiting for him to come and sweep her off her feet! To truly show you just how sweet and amazing he really is, I will post below some of the messages I’ve gotten from him over the past two weeks:
“I am here for you Sunny. So long as you want me as your friend and need me around I’ll be here. Morning, day, night. If I’m sleeping, tired, happy, sad, no matter what I’ll be here and please don’t be afraid to talk to me about whatever. I may doubt myself when it comes to finding love, but everything I’ve been through, all my struggles have made me a fairly strong person. I can be your helping hand should you ever need me, even though I know you like to do it yourself….even so, I’ll be waiting for that one day you may need me….even if that day never comes.”
(FYI his nickname for me is Sunny because my username has “sunshine” in it on POF and he has been calling me Sunny ever since we met because I’m always laughing and smiling about something)
“Our friendship must be worth alot…I know it’s priceless to me.”
I asked him if me talking about other guys bothers him, and this was his response:
“How can it bother me? You’ve said you want me as your best friend, and if that’s what you want then that’s what I’m planning to be. I promise you, on my life, I only want what’s best for you Sunny.”
“I don’t wanna see anything bad happen to you Sunny, not ever. I wouldn’t know what to do.”
“I love talking to you, too sunshine. You always make me smile. You lift my spirit in ways really no one has ever done before. You really mean sooo much to me. I just try my best not to show it.”
“Can I build a home in your heart? Kinda like a safehouse?”
“You are the nicest person I’ve ever met…truly.”
The list goes on and on guys. He really is the biggest sweetheart I’ve ever met!! I’d have to stay up all night just to type out all of the sweet things, great advice, and encouraging words he has given me since we’ve met. And Tron, if you’re reading this right now, SMILE. Because you’re so incredibly special to me, and I am so lucky to have you in my life. I truly value our friendship and I hope that it never ends.
So this proves that you really can meet great guys from dating websites and that not all of them are assholes. There are good ones out there, you just have to give them a chance. You may not end up dating them, but they can become lifelong friends that are more valuable than any date you could ever go on.